Learning Horrible Wedding Traditions

Yesterday I started my day with playing words with friends and looking at Marriage Custom Origins with Nancy (She was doing research to find how many things she could possibly not do in her wedding because of where they came from, and came up with probably three or four.)

Here is a list of the few things she learned and I learned along with her.

Best Man:

Since young, healthy, beautiful girls who could be married were short in stock, a lot of times the Groom would get his most trusted Man-Friend to be his best man, the one who goes with him to another village to kidknap his future bride.

The Best Man is the one who actually did the knapping, and literally “Sweeps Her Off of Her Feet.” He would bring the bride back to the village, and the Groom would marry her. Here comes the;

The Veil:

Now, of course, if the friends or family saw their friend getting married to this stranger, the Groom’s scheme of marrying this girl would quite possibly be ruined. So, how did they make sure nobody knew who the bride was? A veil! Of course! The veil would cover the poor girl’s face so that nobody could reconize her. Now, lets go into the actual wedding ceremony.

Bride On the Left Side Of the Groom;

Back then, (I’m not sure how long ago though…) I guess guys had swords. Not girls I don’t think, I think that the country was not quite as feminine friendly as America now. In fact, I KNOW that. I mean, really? Kidknapping your bride? By the way, most of the time the brides would be around my age or 16 or so. Young girls. Really young girls.

Anyway, the bride stood on the left side because the man’s right hand was his sword hand. If anyone tried to take the girl, then the man would be ready to take the girl right back.

The Best Man would stand next to the couple as sort of a bodyguard,  and in fact, the best man would sometimes even be outside of the newlywed’s house for protection.

The Honeymoon;

Okay. So, this girl has been kidknapped, married quite possibly without consent, and now what? The couple will go on a honeymoon to hide from people who would try to find the girl. The couple would quite possibly stay away for a few weeks to a couple months, somewhere around there, until the family and friends would have decided that she was gone.

Finally, once the couple would get back to their new home, there are some people who say that the ring would be used to tether the bride to the house, but I’m not quite sure how that would work, wouldn’t she be slaving away making food, sewing patches, and cleaning for her finger to be attached to her own home? I don’t know…



I also painted.

3 thoughts on “Learning Horrible Wedding Traditions”

  1. Oh man, Alona! What a detailed write up! The Book of Origins is fascinating…I have enjoyed reading it with you this week!

    I appreciated our conversation around understand why people do what they do – it feels like so many people practice customs and traditions without understand where, why, or how they came to be. It’s really interesting to discover and has me thinking a lot about what practices I want to consider for my life – I don’t want to just do something because others before me have done it. I like consciously choosing what I add to my life 🙂

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